5 CHARACTERISTICS OF A FANTASTIC RELATIONSHIP

News Flash! The best relationships are NOT random they are ‘worked at’ or better yet, co-created.

That means both partners are putting in effort to continue to forge a connection with each other and frankly, within themselves.

If either the man or woman or ideally both, have a spiritual relationship with a Divine Higher Power, then that can only help to elevate the connection.

In general,

Women want to feel like they are special with their man. That he sees HER as the one woman uniquely suited for him. She want to know he sees her as beautiful and as a cherished partner in his life. She wants to feel safe and protected by him.

Men want their women to be respectful, affectionate and nurturing with them. He wants to know that when he screws up she won’t leap to anger and criticism. He wants to safely tell her things and show sides of himself with her he can’t with anyone else.

You both just want to relax with each other.

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Here’s a story of a couple who are quite opposite to each other.

We’ll call them John and Jane. (Yeah… I know. Lame)

Anyway…

John and Jane met at the local coffee shop about three years ago and immediately hit it off.

Other than their good looks and magnetic personalities, they had little else in common.

John was a conservative, yet extremely affectionate man who loved sports and being outdoors. At the same time, Jane was more liberal and preferred staying in and reading a good book.

Despite their differences, they couldn’t resist the chemistry between them and decided to try dating.

At first, things were hot and steamy as they explored each other sexually and learned new things about one another.

However, as they spent more time together, they realized how different they were. They often disagreed on politics, religion, and even the simplest things like what to watch on TV or where and what to eat.

Despite the challenges, they continued to see each other on and off for three years.

One day, something changed.

Both John and Jane started making small adjustments to how they interacted with each other.

John began showing more interest in Jane’s hobbies and even picked up a book to read.

Jane started joining John’s on his outdoor adventures and found that she enjoyed being in nature… as long as it was with John.

As they made these small changes, they fell in love in a way they never had before.

They began seeing each other as life partners and realized they couldn’t imagine spending their lives with anyone else.

Three years after they first met, John and Jane finally decided to marry and knew they wanted to be together forever.

Despite their differences, they had learned to love and accept each other for who they were.

Why would two opposites end up seeing each other as their marriage and life partners?

Try this list and discover how you can maximize

the intimacy and closeness in your life together.

1. You Realize Your Love Relationship Has A Hidden Purpose – Healing Karma

Instead of focusing entirely on surface needs and desires, you begin to understand that romantic relationships especially, help you root out deep, hidden traumas for the chance to be healed.

These traumas can be from this life or another or both. Nothing hits deeper than the energy of someone you have a romantic connection with.

You learn so much about yourself, while learning to love and appreciate someone else in return.

Inside a romantic relationship, you have the opportunity to heal and replace anger and fear with compassion and love. A romance is a gift.

2. You Have A More Grounded View Of Your Partner – You See Life As It Is.

It the beginning of a relationship, you tend to elevate the other person and show them the best sides of yourself too.

As time goes on, many people project their own negativity onto the other person. Either way, you’ve not allowing yourself to see an accurate picture of your partner.

However, as you practice a more conscious relationship rooted in the Now, you begin to see things as they are. In yourself and in them.

You see your partner as another human being doing their best in this grand, yet difficult world, trying to love you, their family and themselves as best as they can.

Seeing things and people as they are, help eliminate or lessen feeling of irritation with empathy.

It helps you to become more sensitive to both your partner and yourself.

Remember, everyone is doing the best they can. Once you are present, rather than thinking ahead or living in the past, honesty and appreciation for your togetherness can emerge.

3. You Take Responsibility For Your Emotions & How You Communicate Them

In an unconscious or dysfunctional relationship, you accept that you need to be 100% responsible for your own feelings at any giving time.

Then, develop ways to clearly communicate what you need and where your boundaries are in a way that still respects the other person so they can understand you better.

This is maturity. Responsibility is for grown ups. Mature grown ups know it’s better to have harmony than acrimony.

AND…

It all starts within you. In your inner environment. THEN you can communicate and connect with your partner better.

Moving past pointless arguments and frustration is essential to growing closer together.

Relationship Magic occurs when you decide to honor who and where your partner is as a person and wanting to give them what they need. AND…they do the same for you.

4. You Become More Intentional In Your Interactions

In an unconscious relationship, you tend to react without thinking… or get ‘triggered’ as they say.

In a mature, responsible relationship, you train yourself to behave more respectfully.

This means being polite. Considering your partner’s sensitivities. Communicating your needs clearly, and giving honest feedback. Being trustworthy with secrets and use discretion.

This is the way mature, rational, loving adults react. When you and your partner bring kindness into your communication, the sweetness melts hearts.

As a partner, between a man and woman, there is deep equality. You’re just not the same. That’s all.